Creating Margin in Your Marriage - Day 1

Is there margin in your marriage?

Dave Ramsey has helped many people change the way that they handle their finances.  People in debt have become debt free.  People that never planned financially now plan.  Dave talks about creating margin in your finances.  To me this means that there is more coming in than is going out.  There is extra for giving, saving, and purchasing with cash.  Creating margin in your finances reduces stress.

What about creating margin in your marriage?  Marriage can be stressful.  We can get into rutsand negative cycles.  These can, over time, destroy a marriage.  Instead, what if we created margin.  Let me give you an example.  What if your spouse is always late and everytime they are late you respond with a negative comment: “You are always late.”  “Can’t you ever be on time?”  “I am tired of waiting on you.”

Now creating margin begins with you.  Instead of fuming because they are late, you think of all the things your spouse has to do and have empthy for them.  Instead of attacking them when they show up late, you greet them with a hug and tell them how glad you are to see them.  Instead of pouting, you set aside their lateness and focus on enjoying the time you have together.

Think of an area of your marriage where you could begin to create margin.  What is your first step?  Will you take it today and start creating margin in your marriage?

Dr. Kim