Do you know what my dream is for marriages? I know I may lose some of you here. You may have thought that this guy has had some good things to say. You may have even tried some of them. You may have thought that this guy is pretty sane. Well here goes blowing it. My dream is a zero divorce rate. Thats right - no divorces anywhere. And I do not want marriages where people are just barely hanging on. I want every marriage to be “awesome” and I even have a plan to make it work.
Step one is helping couples that are high risk for divorce not to marry in the first place. Too many couples “fall in love” and get married without ever seriously looking at their relationship. Most do not take a prep for marriage class. I want every couple considering marriage to be challenged to look hard and deep into their relationship before they say “I do”. Although it may be difficult to breakup, it is far less painful than divorce.
Step two is helping married couples improve their marriages. Marriage is not something we “do” and then coast for fifty years. Ask any couple that has a long, healthy marriage and they will tell you that it took work and a lot of it.
Step three is finding couples with good marriages who are willing to spend time with other married couples as mentors. This in itself can make a huge difference in a marriage.
Step four is providing a “911” service for those in a marriage crisis.
OK. That is my dream and I cannot do it alone. I need this “Awesome Marriage” community to help. I want your ideas and dreams. I want us to join together and make this happen. Can you imagine a world full of “awesome marriages”?