How to De Escalate Marriage Conflict & Resolve Issues | Ep. 605

Sick of the same old fights over and over with your spouse? Learn to de-escalate marriage fights and resolve issues in a healthy and helpful way. Conflict in marriage is inevitable, but the way you handle it is what matters most. Learning to deal with it well will benefit your marriage in so many ways! Tune in today to learn how. 

We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. 

Episode highlights include:  

  • Common conflict pitfalls to avoid

  • The problem with “winning” marriage fights 

  • Tips to help you break the fighting cycle

  • What to do if one spouse is not ready to reconnect 

QUESTIONS FOR YOU:

  • Are you stuck in a conflict cycle? If so, work together to identify what’s triggering it. 

  • Choose 1 tip from Dr. Kim’s list below that you will both agree to use this week. 

Dr. Kim’s tips to break the conflict cycle: 

  • Acknowledge there is a cycle going on. 

  • Figure out what is causing it. Is there a trigger issue? 

  • Time outs: Agree ahead of time to take them if you get heated 

  • Empathy: Seek to see their perspective instead of to win 

  • Education: Gain skills about conflict resolution (Listen to the podcast, read a book, or take a course - together.) 

  • Forgive. Don’t let things pile up; deal with things as they come up. 

  • See a Christian counselor for insight and tools. 

*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! 

QUOTES

  • “When we try our best to avoid conflict, we’re not really equipping ourselves with the skills to handle it well.” - Lindsay Few 

  • “Awareness gives you some insight that can really be useful.” Dr. Kim Kimberling 

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: 

  • Learn more about how to make your marriage conflict healthy by joining Dr. Kim for the 8 Guidelines for Fighting Fair Webinar 

  • Our Conflict Resolution Cheat Sheet is your quick guide to get marriage conflict on the right track. 

  • If you’re ready to learn how to do conflict well, the Conflict Resolution Guide helps you diagnose the problem areas in your marriage, then learn the steps to resolve them. 

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