Emotional Intimacy Dos and Don'ts | Ep. 649

How is the emotional intimacy in your marriage? Do you feel safe telling your spouse anything? Do you feel loved, heard, and understood? 

Marriage is meant to be a refuge…a place where you each feel safe sharing deep personal feelings and confident you will be graciously received by your spouse. The problem is that many of us don’t talk about or even understand our own emotions. And if we can’t properly process our emotions, it will be very hard to build true emotional closeness in marriage. 

Tune in today to learn the Do’s and Don’t of emotional intimacy. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. 

Episode highlights include: 

  • Surprising behaviors that may shut our spouses down emotionally

  • What wives tend to get wrong about emotional intimacy 

  • What husbands often get wrong about emotional intimacy 

  • What we miss out on when emotional intimacy is missing in marriage 

*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here

Couples Conversation Guide: 

Main takeaway:  Emotional intimacy is being able to share your thoughts, feelings, hopes, fears, and more with your spouse and be loved and accepted. It is a building block of great connection in marriage. 

Questions to Discuss: 

  1. How safe do you feel sharing anything you need to with your spouse? 

  2. What could you do to better accept your spouse as they are?  

  3. What helps you feel emotionally close and connected? 

QUOTES 

  • Wives may experience more of the feeling of the lack of emotional intimacy. - Lindsay Few 

  • I promise you, after 54 years of marriage, that your spouse cannot read your mind. -  Dr. Kim Kimberling 

  • A lot of times we think our spouse thinks like we think. Dr. Kim Kimberling 

  • Our assumptions really get us in trouble. - Lindsay Few 

  • Instead of thinking your spouse is a terrible person, realize they’re just different. They don’t see things the same way you do. - Lindsay Few 

  • God didn’t give feelings and emotions to women that He didn’t give to men. He gave us the same feelings and emotions. It changes your life when you get in touch with that. - Dr. Kim Kimberling 

  • We’re all emotional. We’re just not all in touch with them. - Lindsay Few 

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