Your Job: Part 1

What is Really our Job as a Husband or Wife?

When Nancy and I married we were very young - especially by today’s standards.  I was very immature and had some pretty crazy ideas about marriage and my role as a husband.  I adored Nancy.  I thought she was the most beautiful thing God ever created. Yet with all that said, I somehow got the idea that I was supposed to change some of the areas in her life that I thought needed changing.  As good as she was, I just knew she would be so much better if she followed my plan for her life. Most of you do not know Nancy.  She is a godly, loving wife.  She would literally do anything for me but she is also a really strong Type A personality.  What that means is that she is not going to let anyone tell her what to do.  I was appalled.  How could she be so against this opportunity I was offering her?

The bottom line is that I am so thankful that God gave me a Type A personality wife.  I needed someone that could tell me no.  I needed someone that would challenge me and make me examine my plan.

This is what I learned.  God has used me in Nancy’s life and He still does - but it is His job to mold her and it is His job to change her.  He has the perfect plan for her life.  I don’t. That is not my job.

Over the next few blogs, I want to look at what really is our job as a husband or a wife. As we get started, what do you think is your job as a spouse?

Dr. Kim