What is Really our Job as a Husband or Wife?
When Nancy and I married we were very young - especially by today’s standards. I was very immature and had some pretty crazy ideas about marriage and my role as a husband. I adored Nancy. I thought she was the most beautiful thing God ever created. Yet with all that said, I somehow got the idea that I was supposed to change some of the areas in her life that I thought needed changing. As good as she was, I just knew she would be so much better if she followed my plan for her life. Most of you do not know Nancy. She is a godly, loving wife. She would literally do anything for me but she is also a really strong Type A personality. What that means is that she is not going to let anyone tell her what to do. I was appalled. How could she be so against this opportunity I was offering her?
The bottom line is that I am so thankful that God gave me a Type A personality wife. I needed someone that could tell me no. I needed someone that would challenge me and make me examine my plan.
This is what I learned. God has used me in Nancy’s life and He still does - but it is His job to mold her and it is His job to change her. He has the perfect plan for her life. I don’t. That is not my job.
Over the next few blogs, I want to look at what really is our job as a husband or a wife. As we get started, what do you think is your job as a spouse?