White Flags: Giving Over Control

I am often amused at how God uses some of the simple everyday things in life to teach me incredible lessons.  He amazes me over and over. 

Nancy and I were watching TV on a Saturday afternoon in the fall.  There were some great football games on and I was flipping back and forth keeping up with all of them.  I am a remote control ‘genius’.  As often happens, I took a bathroom break.  When I returned, I could not believe what I found.  Nancy had the remote and not only was it in her hand but she was actually punching buttons.  I just knew she had my channel sequence out of whack.  How could she do this?  Did she not know that I was in control?

There it was right in my face. CONTROL. It was not just the remote that I wanted control of, it was my life and my marriage. Did she not know that I was the one who knew how to use the remote best?  She would just mess it up.  Did she not know that I was the one who best knew how to live my life? She would just mess it up.  Did she not know that I was the one who best knew how to run our marriage?  She would just mess it up.  I needed to be in control!

The problem with my thinking was pretty simple.  It is not my job to be in control.  It is my job to give the control over to God.  I need to let Him run my life and my marriage.  I will be the one who messes it up and He will not.  He has the perfect plan and He needs to have the ‘remote’ of my life.  My control goes at His feet and I again raise the ‘white flag’ of surrendering all to Him.  He has won again and I am so glad.

Do you struggle with control?  How is it affecting your marriage?  Are you ready to give control over to God?

Dr. Kim