When we create margin in our marriage, we soon see that it reduces stress and conflict. It puts a positive spin on our relationship. But remember this: Often we take a step forward in our marriage and then don’t continue with the follow-through. In other words, we make some changes, things get better, and then we begin to coast again. That does not work. Creating margin in your marriage is not a one-time event. It is a lifestyle. It is creating margin today and tomorrow and the day after tomorrow and on and on. It is breaking negative cycles and patterns. It is building an Awesome Marriage filled with lots of grace for each other.
The ideal way to create margin in your marriage is for both of you to commit to do this. Sit down together and talk about the destructive patterns you have in your marriage. Talk about what you can do to change those. What part will each of you play? Be specific. Invite God to help you. Then begin.
For most of you, this will be a process. You may be changing patterns that have dominated your marriage for a long time. Don’t give up. Creating margin will change your marriage. Today is the perfect time to take that first step. What’s stopping you?
In 7 Secrets to an Awesome Marriage, Dr. Kim helps you change your marriage, one step at a time, from where it is today to where God wants it to be.