This month our focus at Awesome Marriage is romance. So many couples who I talk to say the romance in their marriage has deteriorated over time. What used to be a flame that drew them together is now a spark that ignites only once in a while. Somehow life has gotten in the way of romance, and they just don’t make it a priority like they did earlier in their marriage. Romance used to come easily for them, but now it takes effort. What happened?
In marriage it’s easy to lose our intentionality and allow our priorities to change. This is usually a slow process, and we don’t always notice the gradual changes. In order to rekindle the romantic spark in our marriages, we need to become intentional about pursuing romance with our spouses. Step one in relighting the fire is reminding ourselves of the basics: (1) My marriage is a gift from God; (2) my spouse is a gift from God; and (3) romance in marriage is a gift from God. We have choices every day in our marriages. Some choices build our relationships and, in turn, spark romance; others do not. Every single day I ask myself, “How can I show Nancy how much I love her today?” It is really a simple question, but when I ask it from my heart and then follow through with an answer, it keeps the romance in our marriage alive. The really cool part is that when I do my part, it is easy for her to do her part. What can you do today to turn that spark in your marriage into a flame? Don’t wait. Start today.