Romance: Embrace the Stage

At Awesome Marriage, we can reach over 500,000 people each month through all our platforms. I know we reach all kinds of people in all stages of relationships. We have married people and we have single people. Some are single after being married, and some have spent their lives single. I don’t have anything to share from my experiences as a single man—I married Nancy seven months after the day I graduated from college. Yet in my career, I have counseled many singles and helped them with the issues they faced in the single life. It is important to me to write a blog this month for singles as we focus on romance. So if you are single, this is for you.

I know many single people literally cannot stand Valentine’s Day—a day that tends to bring out in them every negative feeling they have about being alone. I get that. So instead of putting some awkward spin on Valentine’s Day in a futile attempt to try to make it relevant to singles, I want to talk to you about embracing singleness. That may be a foreign concept to you, but read on a bit more. I believe God uses every stage of life that we go through to teach us and grow us. Being single is not a curse; it’s a stage.

Here are some things I would like for you to consider:

• Prayerfully seek God’s purpose for you as a single.

• Embrace that purpose.

• Use this time to grow closer to Him.

• Spend time making a list of what you want in a future spouse. Identify your non-negotiables and hold fast to them.

• Make sexual purity from today until your wedding day an absolute for you.

• Pray for your future spouse.

• Don’t ever settle for less than God’s very best for you.

That’s it. It’s up to you now. Are you going to continue to look at singleness as a curse or as a life stage that God has planned for you?