Saving a Marriage
If someone came to me after an affair and asked me for the steps to save their marriage, this is what I would tell them.
- First, remorse. Your remorse has to be from the depths of your soul. It will never work if your remorse is because you got caught.
- All contact with the other person must be cut off. If you work with that person, somebody needs to change jobs.
- Be accountable. Your spouse needs to know where you are and what you are doing all the time. How long do you do this? If you ask this question, you are doomed. The statement is, “I will do this forever if it will save my marriage.” Then do it.
- Talk. Answer every question. Be totally honest.
- Get someone to be accountable to besides your spouse.
Now a couple of thoughts for the spouse that was cheated on.
- No matter how bad a husband or a wife you were that never justifies a spouse having an affair. But you need to honestly look at your life as a spouse and see what, with God’s help, you need to change.
- Be careful when you are asking questions. Sometimes too much information can be overload. You know what happened. How many details do you really need to know.
To both of you: You will need help. Find a pastor or a Christian counselor that can help you along the way.
Okay, Tribe, share your thoughts.