Can my marriage be saved after my spouse cheated?

What steps do I take if I want to save it?

Many marriages can recover from infidelity, but it requires both spouses to be committed to the hard work of rebuilding. As the betrayed spouse, you have every right to be angry, hurt, and uncertain about the future. Don't make permanent decisions while you're in crisis: give yourself time to process and heal before deciding about your marriage.

Focus on your own healing first. Betrayal trauma is real and affects you emotionally, physically, and mentally. Get individual counseling, consider joining a support group for betrayed spouses, and take care of your basic needs. Your spouse needs to do their own work to address why they cheated and prove their commitment to change.

Recovery Steps for Betrayed Spouse:

• Give yourself time to process before making permanent decisions about your marriage.

• Get individual counseling to address betrayal trauma and its effects.

• Consider joining support groups specifically for betrayed spouses.

• Require complete honesty and transparency from your spouse about everything.

• Insist on professional help for both individual healing and couples work.

• Set clear boundaries about what you need for your own healing process.

• Focus on your own recovery, not just on saving the marriage.

Key Takeaways:

• Recovery is possible but requires commitment from both spouses.

• Your own healing needs to be the priority, not just saving the marriage.

• Professional help is essential for navigating betrayal trauma.

• Setting boundaries protects your healing process.

I’ve helped countless couples rebuild their marriage after an affair, and I can help you too! Join my free webinar Rebuilding Trust and Establishing Healthy Boundaries After An Affair.