Being Single - Part 4
Repeating Cycles
Have you ever been in a bad relationship? Have you ever been in a relationship that you thought could last a lifetime and did not? Most of us could answer yes to both of these questions. Relationships are difficult and can be very painful. Good relationships take a lot of work by both people involved. One person working as hard as they can will not save a relationship. The number of bad relationships that one has been involved in seems to relate closely to their ability to invest in a new relationship. We get cautions and protect ourselves. We feel we are in a cycle that we cannot break. What do we do?
Let me offer two suggestions. First, take a time out to heal. Spend time away from dating. Spend time with God. Try our “30 Day Experiment for Singles.” Second, when a new relationship comes along take your time. Let it develop slowly. Do not rush it.
If you are going to have a different outcome, you have to do something different. The reason we get in cycles and get stuck there is because we keep doing the same unhealthy things over and over. Having a different outcome happens when we do something different.
What are some ways to break unhealthy cycles?
Dr. Kim