What if foreplay was twenty-four/seven? What if we labeled successful foreplay as something that lasted twenty-four hours every day? The foreplay and intimacy I want us to talk about here are not overtly sexual in nature but can absolutely can lead to an improved sex life in your marriage.
Nancy oversees the running of our home, especially on the inside. If something goes out, she gets the repairman. She is good at this and being in real estate, she usually knows the best people to call. There are things in the house that she wants to do. Most of them involve cleaning something the way she wants it to be cleaned. No problem. The thing she does not like to do by herself is make the beds. So if I am proactive and offer to help her or, even better, if I make the beds for her, that is foreplay. It is not sexual at all but it shows love, care, and concern, which makes her feel loved. The more loved she feels, the more she is drawn to me. If I am consistently conscious of things I can do to make her day easier, that is foreplay and builds intimacy. Do you know what else happens? The more I do for her, the more she does for me.
Think about it this way. What if you consistently put your spouse’s needs in front of yours? What if you did everything you could to make their day easier? What if you took a little time out of your workday to text “I love you” to your spouse? What if you planned a date for the two of you? If you consistently live your life this way, your marriage will be better and most likely your sex life will be better too. It may even be a lot better!
My challenge to you is to not accept anything less than this in your marriage. Make foreplay last twenty-four/seven. Make it your lifestyle. Know that God has given you each other to love and to cherish and that the sexual relationship in your marriage is a gift from God to both of you!
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