Worth Repeating: How To NOT Fight With Your Spouse About Money with Julie Baumgardner

The Awesome Marriage Podcast is on winter break, and over the next four weeks we’ll be sharing some of our favorite past episodes with you.

First up: Finances! No one loves talking finances, but we do think you’ll love today’s conversation with Julie Baumgardner! Julie shares how to get curious about what money means to your spouse, how two spouses’ separate financial backgrounds and “money stories” can stop being a source of tension, and start becoming a shared value. 

Listen to this episode if you’re ready to get on the same page with your spouse about finances this season - without fighting about them! 

 

Episode highlights include:  

  •  Questions to start a productive conversation about finances with your spouse

  • How to uncover the hidden money lessons you learned growing up, then to get on the same page with your spouse. 

  • What recent research says about the connection of money and marital happiness 

  • How to learn more about your spouse’s perspective about money 

  • Ways to work together toward shared values around money in your marriage

Quotes from This Episode:

  • “You have different perspectives about money. You don’t necessarily talk about what it means to you, how you think about it, therefore you argue about it.” - Julie Baumgardner  

  • “You can have conversations about money without having to be methodical about every single penny.” - Julie Baumgardner 

  • “If you can’t figure out how to live within your means with a little, it will be very complicated to figure out how to live within your means with a lot.” - Julie Baumgardner 

  • “It isn’t ‘You’re right, I’m wrong,’ you’re being curious. And in being curious, you’re learning.” - Julie Baumgardner 

  • “If you can tell that money is creating stress, what is it about money that’s stressful?” - Julie Baumgardner 

  • “Keep your eyes wide open for where God is calling you to join Him in his work. Be aware, and where you see a need, be a Kingdom builder. ” - Julie Baumgardner 

 

Conversation Guide:

  • What matters most to the two of you when it comes to money? It’s never too late to define your core values around money in your marriage. 

  • What is it about money that’s stressful?  If it’s “what ifs," then name the what-ifs and talk through them. 

 

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