When You Both Love Jesus but Your Marriage Feels Stuck with Belah Rose | Ep. 752

Loving Jesus doesn't mean loving your spouse will always be easy. But when loving your spouse becomes really hard, your relationship with Jesus gives you somewhere to go, not somewhere to hide.

Today Dr. Kim is sitting down with Belah Rose of the Delight Your Marriage Podcast to talk about why Christian couples can love Jesus, love each other, and still find themselves feeling stuck, disconnected, or unsure of what to do next.

They talk about the impact of our family of origin, learning how to love our spouse in the way they actually receive love, the power of small acts of thoughtfulness, forgiveness, intimacy, and the importance of choosing to work on your marriage instead of simply settling for where it is.

Because a healthy marriage doesn't happen because you never have problems. It happens when you are willing to keep growing, keep communicating, keep forgiving, and keep putting Christ at the center.

If your marriage feels stuck right now, this conversation is a reminder that there are practical steps you can take, and your marriage is worth the work.

Top Takeaways:

Being a Christian doesn’t automatically make marriage easy. 

Forgiveness frees us to move forward. 

Small choices can change the atmosphere of your marriage. 

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Belah Rose:

  1. “When you forgive, you set a prisoner free, and then you realize it was you.”

  2. “It’s caring at a level that just shows, ‘I love you, I cherish you, and I want you to feel cherished in this marriage.’”

  3. “When people who are stuck finally get it, it feels like they’re free. It’s like all the boulders and all the stuff on their back kind of falls off.”

  4. “So many Christian marriages end up not really knowing how to love the other person, not having a good model, and then feeling like, ‘What do I do?’”

  5. “God made us different for a reason. He wanted us to learn from each other and figure it out with His help.”

Dr. Kim:

  1. “Marriage isn’t going to grow when you’re holding on to unforgiveness.”

  2. “You make such a difference when you walk in that door. You’re either going to take things down or you’re going to build things up.”

  3. “The action steps help you show your spouse that this is real this time. God is changing me.”

  4. “We are not the poster couple, and we never will be because we are always working on it. But what we’ve found is the work gives great rewards.”

  5. “On your way home, pray and give all the people you saw today to God. Put them in His hands. Then start thinking about what your wife and your kids are going to need.”



Time to Talk About it: 

  1. What is one thing I do that makes you feel loved and cherished? Is there anything you wish I did more often?

  2. Are there any areas where we feel stuck or disconnected right now? What is one small step we could take together to move forward?

  3. Is there anything I need to forgive, or anything I need to ask forgiveness for, that could help us move forward in our marriage?

  4. When you think about the atmosphere of our home, what do you think we are building together? What is one thing we could do differently to make our home more peaceful and connected?



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