The Fight for Us with Rebekah and Gabe Lyons Ep. 689

Today on the Awesome Marriage podcast, Dr. Kim is joined by Gabe and Rebekah Lyons to discuss their latest book The Fight for Us. Through 28 years of marriage, they realized as time went on that each of them brought their own differing perspectives, expectations, and emotional maturity to the marriage. The one common thread to connecting through all the differences is and will always be clear and effective communication. It will take a fight and it will take intentionality, but your marriage will thrive and it will absolutely be worth it. We are praying this episode encourages you to keep fighting for your marriage.


Episode Highlights:

  • Husbands and wives are going to bring different levels of emotional maturity into the marriage.

  • Don’t make an agreement with the idea of “it is what it is.” 

  • It will take daily, intentional effort to give your marriage the nurturing it needs.

  • Effective communication is at the cornerstone of a strong marriage.

  • Differing expectations aren’t bad, they’re different. 

Quotes from Today’s Episode:

I want to normalize the fact that, yeah, there's conflict in marriage, but the bigger part is the repair and staying together and fighting for each other.

A wife or a husband is a mirror and you're going to see parts of yourself that are not healed, that are not whole.

We're all longing to be seen and known and loved fully in the absence of shame. And women are going to just keep hunting that down until they find it. 

You're not healing unless you're talking.

It’s not that it’s right or wrong- it’s different.

Sin separates, it's the whole goal of sin is to separate and break relationship. 

We need to be all in. 


Couples’ Conversation Guide:

  1. Have you resolved to believe the lie that it is what it is?

  2. Are you giving your spouse space to share their emotions, free from shame and judgement? 

  3. On a scale of 1-10 how intentional are you being right now in fighting for your marriage?

  4. What is one practical thing from today’s episode that you can begin implementing in your marriage to aid in the fight for an awesome marriage?


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