The Cost of Being "Right" in Marriage | Ep. 654

Marriage conflict is hard, but you know what makes it even harder? Trying to WIN. Because if you win, that means your spouse loses. And that’s not great for your marriage connection. Break out of the “my way” versus “your way” myth and learn what it means to work together to have a win for your marriage. 

Today we’re unpacking the process of how to win TOGETHER. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. 

Episode highlights include: 

  • Why taking divorce off the table changes the dynamics of conflict.

  • What does it mean for the marriage to “win” and how can you do it? 

  • Key steps for healthy conflict resolution

  • The importance of empathy and proactive communication to prevent arguments.

*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! 

Couples Conversation Guide: 

Main takeaway:  Marriage conflict is hard. When you try to win, you make it even harder.

Questions to Discuss: 

  1. Are there any issues that have you stuck in a “win/lose” cycle? 

  2. Have you considered any creative “third” options (options that aren’t “your way” or “their way”) that could solve the issue? 

  3. Brainstorm possible options. During brainstorming, no idea is too out there! Just get lots of other options on the table to help you start looking for marriage wins instead of fighting over your individual preference. 

QUOTES 

  •  "If you’re trying to win, that means your spouse loses." - Dr. Kim Kimberling 

  • "A marriage win creates two winners." - Dr. Kim Kimberling 

  • "Ask: What's going to make our marriage win?" - Dr. Kim Kimberling 

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