Decoding 'Needy' Wives: How to Love & Support Her Well | Ep. 668

Husbands, have you ever felt like your wife expects too much from you? Wives, have you checked whether your expectations are realistic? 

Expectations in marriage can be a difficult topic, and they’re a very common source of marriage tension. Which is why today, we want to help break down misunderstandings around spouse expectations today, so that you can experience better connection and more joy in your marriage.  

We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. 

Episode highlights include: 

  • Wives may struggle to articulate their needs clearly.

  • Non-sexual affection enhances sexual intimacy.

  • Emotional connection is crucial for a healthy marriage.

*Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! 

Couples Conversation Guide: 

Main takeaway: Expectations don't have to be a source of conflict. There's a way to communicate and connect the different wants and needs you have in marriage.

Questions to Discuss: 

  • Are there any expectations that you feel are “too much”?

  • Husbands, do you need more clarity from your wife about her expectations?

  • How would you rate how well you actively listen and engage with your spouse?

  • What would make you a more intentional listener? (time of day, location of conversation, free of distractions, etc.)

  • When was the last time you checked in with your spouse about the overall health of your marriage relationship.

  • What are the priorities in your marriage? Do you know your spouse’s priorities? How do they compare?

QUOTES 

  •  Wives want to be part of the decision making and feel like it’s a true partnership.

  • The better the non sexual connection and intimacy is, the better the physical connection and intimacy will be. 

  • Most men weren’t raised to be emotionally expressive.

  • You don’t have to solve everything. 

  • When I stopped trying to fix it, I heard her better.

  • A wife wants to feel prioritized.

  • Learning to say things in a way your spouse can hear takes practice.

  • You have to accept that God made us different as husband and wife.

  • The small consistent things you do matter more than perfection.

MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:  

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