Anger
In this episode, Colby & Dr. Kim talk about anger. They get honest about what things “trigger” them in life and in marriage. They discuss whether it is ever okay to be angry. If so, when? And how can we handle it well? They discuss ways to know if your anger is healthy or unhealthy, tips to deal with it, and what to do if you think your anger might be out of control.
Quotes:
“I think I know, if I’m really honest with myself, if I’ve had an issue with someone, whether it’s been resolved or not. And if it hasn’t, there’s a chance it’s not going to go well at some point.” Dr. Kim Kimberling.
“We have to make sure it’s resolved, because if you don’t resolve it, it’s probably going to happen again.” Dr. Kim Kimberling
“If you have a spirit of unforgiveness toward anybody, it’s going to cause you to react.” Colby Taylor
“As guys we stuff it down, we act like it really doesn’t bother us, act like it’s not a big deal. To take that step and reconcile, and ask forgiveness and give forgiveness does take a load off.” Dr. Kim Kimberling
“My wife knows me better than almost anybody in this world. She knows what buttons to push. I had to learn why this was affecting me so much.” - Colby Taylor
“The longer you live with someone the bigger your arsenal of things to throw at them. You have a choice though, whether you throw them out or not.” Dr. Kim Kimberling
“Your children are also affected by your anger. Your kids being allowed to see your anger is okay, but it does affect your kids, and your relationship with them.” Colby Taylor
“When you think about it, we’re really big and scary to a little kid, or we can be, when we’re angry… It’s okay if your kids know they upset you, but it’s your responsibility how you handle that anger.” - Dr. Kim Kimberling
“We need to go back and say, ‘Why am I really angry?’ and go back to the root of it before it escalates or gets worse.” - Dr Kim Kimberling
Homework Questions:
1. How do you see anger affecting your life?
2. What are some of your anger triggers?
3. Would friends and family consider you an angry person?
4. What does the verse “be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry” (James 1:19) mean to you?
5. What are some steps you can take to get control of your anger?
6. What in the world today makes you angry?
7. We know anger is not all bad. What are some things that should make you angry?
8. What are some ways to channel your anger for positive change?
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