"Traffic Signs and Your Marriage: YIELD"

I was driving through my neighborhood this morning.  It was a beautiful day.  I saw a friend jogging toward me.  I looked over to wave at him about the same time I passed a YIELD sign.  This particular YIELD sign was at a place where two roads merge into one.  If two cars try to merge from the two lanes into one at the same time, the results are not good.  Thus, there is a YIELD sign and it was in my lane.  I was supposed to slow down or stop and let the other driver enter the lane before I did.  Luckily, I looked up in time to hit my brakes before I hit another car.  Close call because I did not obey the YIELD sign. There are YIELD signs all over my marriage and often I ignore them too. 

To me I often interpret the YIELD to mean that I do not get my way and Nancy does.  What it really means is that I am supposed to be unselfish even when I do not feel like it.  There are times I get it and there are times I do not want to get it.  I have said for years that the number one problem in marriage is selfishness.  I should know.  I can achieve professional status in this area.

I have made an interesting observation.  When I am driving and obey the YIELD sign, I never have a problem.  I never had a wreck from obeying the YIELD sign.  In my marriage, when I am unselfish, my marriage is really good.  Do you know that Nancy and I have never, ever had a fight when I was being unselfish?  Amazing, huh?

What if you envisioned a YIELD sign right next to your spouse?  Then, what if you obeyed it?  Finally, what if you did that day after day after day?  Awesome Marriage? Probably.

Dr. Kim