The Love Potion: The Right Measure of Anger

In this new series we look at one of the chapters in Dr. Kim's book "7 Secrets to an Awesome Marriage": The Love Potion. You may order your copy of the book here.

What about anger? Does it belong in our love potion? Does it exist in your marriage? When you got married, did you think you would ever get angry at your new spouse? How long did your marriage last before you felt anger? Most of us do not like anger. It can be very frightening. The reason we feel this way is that we seldom see anger handled in a good way.

The Bible talks about anger and tells us not to sin when we are angry (see Psalm 4:4). Anger in and of itself is not wrong. It is how we handle our anger that becomes right or wrong. For example, if I am angry at Nancy and I scream at her or throw something, I have not handled my anger in a right way. But if I tell her what I am angry about and ask her to talk it through with me so it can be resolved, then I have handled it well and our marriage continues on a good track.

How do you handle anger? What about in your marriage? Are you ready to give your anger to God and to let Him guide you in bringing it under control? He will, and your marriage will take a huge step forward.

Anger is a normal, acceptable emotional response to pain and frustration—it’s how we show it that makes it right or wrong, healthy or destructive. 

Dr. Kim