This month of April, we will feature some of the chapters from Dr. Kim's book "7 Secrets to an Awesome Marriage." You may order your copy of the book here.
Nancy and I met on a blind date. We had never really seen each other and knew very little about each other. We were pretty young: Nancy was eighteen and I was twenty. As I think back to before I met Nancy, I am reminded of the process we went through in finding each other. Like many people, we both had developed a list of qualities we were looking for in a spouse. I wanted someone who had similar values and beliefs. My parents lined up well in this area and it made sense to me. I also wanted someone whom I was physically attracted to. Nancy was off the charts in this area. Honestly, I think that was it—not a very long or deep list.
I asked Nancy what was on her list. She wanted someone with money or the ability to make money. She had seen her family struggle in this area, and it was a source of conflict in their home. She also wanted someone athletic. She got a guy who went into ministry (limits on money) and who was not very athletic.
We dated for two years before getting married. And here we are, more than forty years later, still married and going strong. God knew all along what kind of a wife I needed. And although I didn’t meet all of Nancy’s requirements for an ideal husband, God knew exactly what she needed. She was willing to compromise on the non-essentials.
Know what kind of a person you are looking for and don’t compromise your values, but be prepared to be pleasantly surprised!