Towards April, we will feature some of the chapters from Dr. Kim's book "7 Secrets to an Awesome Marriage." You may order your copy of the book here.
Picture yourself driving down a highway. Next to you is a person of the opposite sex (if you are married, this person is your spouse). As you drive along, you might think that it is really nice to be driving next to that person, but you want more and hope that they do too. So you take a risk and invite that person to park their car and ride with you. It will be more economical and a great way to get to know each other better.
You begin to talk about hopes and dreams and the possibility of driving together for the rest of your lives. It is exciting to talk about, and you both really want to do that. You make that commitment to each other. You are both ecstatic. But where are you going, and how will you get there?
Marriage can be a wonderful journey but it can also be a miserable ride. The kind of journey a couple takes depends on their destination and how they plan on arriving there. My hope is that every couple will desire an awesome mar- riage as their destination and think about what it takes to get there.
What does an awesome marriage look like to you? For me, a number of things go into my answer. Here are a few of my goals for having an awesome marriage:
- I want to be able to say that my life is so much better because Nancy is my wife (and I want her to say the same about me).
- I want us to choose our battles well.
- I want us to always treat each other with love and respect.
- I want us to grow in our marriage each day.
- I want us to cherish each day that God gives us to be together.
- I want our marriage to be a positive example for others.
Now it is your turn. Setting personal goals will help you define your ideal marriage and it will help both of you on your way down the awesome marriage highway. Think about your marriage goals as you read through the pages of my book, and join me in the fight to save marriages, one at a time—starting with yours!