Question: How young is too young? I am 22 and about to marry is dat an ok?
Dr. Kim: Brenda - Nancy and I were 19 and 21 respectively when we got engaged and we got married four months later. We have been married forty years. I honestly think it is more about maturity than age. I have seen 50 year old couples that should have not gotten married! Certainly, there is a place where age is a factor. Marriages younger that 20 years of age have a very high divorce rate. So I would advise you this way:
- Do premarital counseling (my class is available online as an option).
- Ask close friends and family if they support your marriage. You need the support of those who are important to you
- Do either of you have financial debt? Finances are the number one cause of divorce.
- Are you willing to commit to each other for life?
If you do each of these, I think you will have prepared well.