Myth #4 - To Have a Great Marriage, Marry the Right Person

Most of us somewhere deep inside would honestly like that myth to be true. Think about it. It’s like a romantic movie script: Boy meets right girl, skyrockets go off, and they marry and live happily ever after; or girl meets right boy, skyrockets go off, and they marry and live happily ever after. That would mean marrying the right person is an airtight, unconditional guarantee of a great marriage. In reality, God could have made it that way, but He didn’t. If we consider what God says in the Bible about marriage and relationships, we would find that God’s plan is the opposite of the myth.

I think God would say this: To have a great marriage, BE the right person. God seems to be more interested in who we are and who we are becoming than about whether we are marrying the right person. Look at it this way: If I am seeking God and becoming the person He created me to be, then “I am becoming the person I am looking for is looking for.”* The truth is that there is only one person that I have any control over at all, and that is me.

Did I marry the “right person”? Technically yes, but not just because we married. The answer is yes because we both finally figured out that becoming the right person in Christ is what would give us the great marriage we both desired. If you are single, seek God with all your heart, mind, and soul, and look for those who are doing the same thing. If you are married, become the spouse God created you to be. Being the right person will lead you to your great marriage!

*Borrowed from Andy Stanley, Your Move Podcasts