Insights from Dr. Kim: COVID-19 and Your Marriage
Some of you are probably thinking, “Does this guy think about marriage all the time?” Well, no, not all the time - but a lot! I believe God gave us marriage to make our lives better. It is the most important relationship in this life next to our relationship with Him. During this time, when we don’t know what each day will bring in a way we’ve never experienced, I think it is an amazing time for each of us to grow our marriages.
As a counselor, I usually see couples react to times of crisis in one of two ways. They either pull together and become a stronger team or they drift apart. Most of us are going to have more time together as a couple than is usual for us. During that time together, some of our go-to time fillers are no longer available. No live sports on TV. Limited access to restaurants. No live concerts. For many, no church services. We can go outside but can’t get too close to others. We may find our favorite stores closed or under limited operating hours. I won’t even attempt to list everything you don’t have but there are some crucial things you do have: You have each other and you have God.
So how do you grow your marriage with this virus all around? Here are some ideas:
Do a YouVersion Bible reading plan together. Here are some of my plans that I think would be great to use. Growing Your Marriage, Part 1 and Part 2. Traffic Signs and Your Marriage, Part 1 and Part 2. Seven Secrets to an Awesome Marriage. Sex in Marriage Part 1 and Part 2.
Have fun. Play board games and/or card games. Watch funny videos together.
Have more sex. People keep joking that there are going to be lots of babies born 9 months from now. I’m sure they aren’t wrong! As someone who loves marriage, I encourage it! Take advantage of this extra time at home to make sex happen more frequently than you usually do. Check out the Ultimate Intimacy App if you haven’t already to spice up your sex life. It has over 200 nudity-free sex position ideas and some fun sexy games you can play.
Please enjoy our Awesome Marriage Date Designs for free for a fun creative date at home.
Go to awesomemarriage.com and look through our resources like the “Love Making Survey” or “Creative Questions to Ask Your Spouse.”
Pray together. Pray for those affected by the virus and for protection for others.
Spend at least 30 minutes of focused time together each day.
Those are my thoughts. Now it is your turn to take the action steps!