Question: Dr. Kim, my fiance feels commitment issues because he has days he wishes he was single. So he feels like that is a betrayl to me and he feels the need to tell me this periodically. I told him that everyone has days they just want to give up and that no relationship is perfect. Both sides of the equation have to work to build the relationship up.... Is this normal for him to feel because of an 'off' day for us we should just throw in the towel and split???
Dr. Kim: That is a great question. First, it is not unusual for someone to have ‘cold feet’ before marriage. Most people, if they are honest, would say that from the time they got engaged until their wedding day at some point doubts crossed their mind. My concern would be if these doubts persisted or were not resolved. You would not want to carry them into marriage. Marriage is tough enough. A couple needs to enter marriage 100% committed to each other and to the covenant of marriage. Anything less leaves a large marginfor failure.