How Can I Get My Husband To Lead Spiritually?

I want my husband to be the spiritual leader but he isn't stepping up. How can I get him to lead?

You can't force, nag, or manipulate your husband into spiritual leadership, and trying to do so will probably push him further away from it. Most men feel intimidated by spiritual leadership because they don't feel qualified or they're afraid of doing it wrong. Instead of pressuring him, create an environment that encourages and supports any spiritual initiative he takes, no matter how small.

Many wives have unrealistic expectations about what spiritual leadership looks like. It doesn't have to be formal family devotions or lengthy prayers; it might be saying grace at dinner, making decisions with biblical principles in mind, or initiating conversations about church. Recognize and affirm these smaller acts of leadership instead of waiting for grand gestures.

Key Steps:

• Stop pressuring and start encouraging any spiritual initiative he shows.

• Lower your expectations and recognize small acts of spiritual leadership.

• Avoid criticism or comparison to other husbands: this shuts men down.

• Pray for him consistently rather than nagging him about spiritual things.

• Focus on your own spiritual growth and let your life be an example.

Key Takeaways:

• Pressure and nagging actually discourage spiritual leadership in men.

• Small steps toward spiritual leadership should be celebrated and encouraged.

• Your example and prayers are more powerful than your words.

• Men need to feel capable and supported, not criticized and compared.

One of the best things you can do right now is to pray faithfully and daily for your husband. Use this free 15 Daily Prayers To Pray For Your Husband printable as an easy way to pray bold prayers over him daily.