Flirting and all that stuff: Intimacy

Let’s talk about intimacy today and leave sex out of the discussion. Don’t quit reading. Just because we are not going to talk about sex now does not mean that what we talk about won’t lead to great sex later. Some of us were better at flirting than others in our dating years. I was not very good at it. A lot of that was because I was so afraid of rejection. I could talk to girls fine but flirting scared me. When I met Nancy in college, I loved the way she flirted with me. It was never overt, just subtle. A look or a smile at just the right time.

As we dated and I began to trust our relationship more, I learned to flirt too. It became one of the things I Ioved about our dating years. Today we flirt as much or more than we did in college. Except for a few of our most difficult years, it really has been an important part of our life together all the way through, and even in those tough years we managed to flirt a little and it really helped.

Think about your dating years. How did you flirt with each other? What feeling did the flirting spark? Now answer this question. When was the last time you flirted with each other? My hope is that your answer was a recent time. If it was not, why not put flirting back into your marriage? No excuses. I know couples in their eighties that still flirt and still enjoy the benefits of flirting.

It adds a spark that every marriage needs. It shows intentionality as you focus on each other. I said at the start of this blog we were leaving sex out of the discussion but remember in the past how flirting with each other often led to great sex? Enough said.