“Distractions" - Part Three: Technology


Another distraction that most of us have to deal with is technology. With all the good things that technology has brought us, it can be a huge distraction in our marriages and relationships. Honestly, it has become a big issue for me.  A lot of my work is through my computer, my phone,  Facebook, Twitter, etc.  It is so easy to access all of these.  I love being able to connect with people all around the world through technology.  It has opened up all kinds of opportunities.  My problem is that it is too easy to connect.  I can pull my phone out of my pocket and instantly connect.  I can sit down at my computer and be in touch with someone on the other side of the world in seconds.  What I have to remember is that the person that is most important to me is in the next room.  I have to put down the phone and walk away from the computer and connect with her.

Practically, I have taken some steps that have helped. Most days i cut myself off from technology at the end of my work day.  I try to be “unplugged” one day a week.  If Nancy calls or walks into my office, I want her to know that she is my priority and I do what I can to communicate that to her.  These steps have helped me.  What do you do that helps?  Share your ideas.

Dr. Kim