Building a Foundation Part 2: HAVING FUN TOGETHER

FUN

As we began looking at some ways to build a strong foundation in your marriage, we looked at the importance of having time together.  Another piece of that foundation is having fun together.  Most couples can tell me many stories of all the fun they had while dating and during their time of engagement.  But for many, after marriage, as life began to get in the way, the fun times were few and for some stopped all together.

You are together because you thought your life would be better through this relationship.  Having fun together is an essential part of a marriage.  We need time to getaway from the stress of life and enjoy each other.  Our marriage needs to be a refuge from the rest of the world.

Let me ask you a few questions:

• What did you do for fun when you were dating?

• What do you think would be fun today?

• Will you carve out time for the two of you to have fun together?

Try this idea.  Each of you write down five things you would like to do as a couple that are fun.  Tear the ideas into strips and put them in a box. Set aside time for a "fun date," draw out one of the slips of paper and do what it says.  Then have your date.  Focus on having a great time together.

The times of fun will carry over into other areas of your marriage in a positive way.  Share some of your ideas here.

Dr. Kim