When Nancy and I married, we were very young—especially by today’s standards. I was very immature and had some pretty crazy ideas about marriage and my role as a husband. I adored Nancy. I thought she was the most beautiful thing God ever created. Yet with all that said, I somehow got the idea that I was supposed to change some of the areas in her life that I thought needed changing. As good as she was, I just knew she would be so much better if she followed my plan for her life.
Most of you don’t know Nancy. She is a godly, loving wife. She would literally do anything for me. But she also has a really strong type A personality. What that means is that she is not going to let anyone tell her what to do. As a newly married man, I was appalled by this. How could she be so against this opportunity I was offering her?
The bottom line is that I am so thankful that God gave me a type A personality wife. I needed someone who could tell me no. I needed someone who would challenge me and make me examine my plan.
This is what I learned: God has used me in Nancy’s life, and He still does, but it is His job to mold her and it is His job to change her. He has the perfect plan for her life. I don’t.
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