In this new series we look at one of the chapters in Dr. Kim's book "7 Secrets to an Awesome Marriage": The Love Potion. You may order your copy of the book here.
In sports, the scorekeeper is the person who keeps track of everything that goes on in a game. In basketball, the scorekeeper records who scores, who fouls, who is in the game, who is not in the game, and everything in between. The scorekeeper’s work is essential to the game of basketball because the collected and recorded information tells the story of the game.
Now, what about a scorekeeper in marriage? What if someone wrote down every bad, wrong, careless, or stupid thing you did in your marriage? What if that person were your spouse? What if they wrote it in ink—the kind of ink that can never be erased—so they would never forget all the things you did and so you would never forget?
Bottom line: Scorekeeping in basketball is essential and works. Scorekeeping in marriage is deadly and never works. You see, in marriage there is something that is far more important than scorekeeping. It is called forgiveness. It is an essential part of our love potion because it keeps no record of wrongs.
Are you a scorekeeper? What record of wrong do you need to let go of and instead replace with forgiveness? What would that do for your marriage? What would that do for your heart?
Forgiveness is a key ingredient of a loving marriage—not scorekeeping