It is important to identify what you want in a spouse. Before you do that, you must identify what you want for yourself. Otherwise, you will have unclear and often unrealistic expectations for your future spouse. If you really want to live the best life possible, then you must go back and ask the question, “What does God want for me?” We ask this question a lot, and then sit back and wonder what God wants for our lives. The truth is that God has told us what He wants for our lives. Sometimes, I avoid these passages because God has made it clear what He wants for us, and sometimes, I don’t want to agree with Him because of my selfishness. When God and I disagree, one of us is wrong and I guarantee you it is not God. After all, God is truth. Here are some passages we can put into practice today.
*Be completely humble and gentle; be patient, bearing with one another in love. Ephesians 4:2 (NIV)
*Do not be drunk with wine, because that will ruin your life. Instead, be filled with the Spirit. Ephesians 5:18 (NLT)
*Put to death, therefore, whatever belongs to your earthly nature: sexual immorality, impurity, lust, evil desires and greed, which is idolatry. Because of these the wrath of God is coming. You used to walk in these ways, in the life you once lived. Colossians 3:5-7 (NIV)
*Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity. Colossians 3:12-14 (NIV)
Imagine the future God might have for you if you devoted yourself to Him now. Imagine what your life would look like if you lived these truths everyday. Imagine how many lives would be blessed because of your obedience. Imagine the pleasure of God in your life as you love Him and do His will.
As my friend Brian says, “God blesses obedience every time.” When I want what God wants for the reason God wants it, I am walking in His will.
By the way, greetings from Mount Kilimanjaro.
Kent and Dave Singles Leaders Team