As you might have guessed, the list of what most women want in the sexual relationship in marriage will be very different from the list we looked at for men. It again points out our differences. Just as wives need to embrace what their husbands want, husbands need to embrace what is important to our wives. Guys, you will find that if you value her wants, your sex life will be more than you ever dreamed it could be.
The first ‘want’ on most wives list is trust. Trust. She has to feel safe with you. She has to know that you will stay in the boundaries that you have agreed to as a couple. She has to know that you would never hurt her or abuse her. In sex, the woman is usually the vulnerable one, whether that is physical strength or sexual position. What is most important to all of us when we feel vulnerable? We want to know without a shadow of a doubt that we are safe.
If you have her trust now, do not ever do anything to break it. If that trust has been broken, ask your wife what she needs you to do to rebuild it and then work as hard as you can to do it.
Wives, if you trust your husband tell him.. Reinforce the things that he does that have built that trust. If you do not trust him, tell him and share ways that he can, with your help, build that trust.