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"Differences: Plus or Minus" by Dr. Kim

May 16, 2014 by Kim Kimberling in Dr- Kim Blogs, Marriage Blogs

I talk to a lot of couples that are dating or engaged.  Often I hear the same lines from many of  them:  “We are so much alike.”  “We like all the same things.”  This is usually good and is probably one of the things that has attracted them to each other.  We need to have things in common if we are going to make a marriage work.  

But what about differences?  In every relationship they are there.  We just do not see them or we minimize them or we think they will disappear after we get married.  The truth is that we all have our differences.  We are not alike.  We can like the same things but we are different.  The idea is not to try and marry someone that is just like you.  First, that will never happen.  Second, it would really be pretty boring.  Differences are a part of life.  The key in marriage is how we handle our differences!  

We have two choices.  We let our differences pull us apart and let them be the source of conflict or we embrace our differences.  I happen to believe that God made us all unique  and different and it is those differences that make a marriage truly unique.  My wife Nancy and I have a lot in common - especially after forty years together.  But we also have a lot of differences.  We spent too many years trying to change each other and that was miserable.  When we finally decided to accept our differences and even to see them as strengths for our relationship, most of our conflict stopped.

I have some homework for you.  Make a list of your spouses differences.  Then write two positive things underneath each of them.  It may be a small step but it starts you in the right direction of accepting your spouse’s differences and moving toward an “awesome marriage.’

Dr. Kim

May 16, 2014 /Kim Kimberling
Dr- Kim Blogs, Marriage Blogs

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