Sex is a gift from God. He designed our bodies in such a way that sex gives us pleasure. He also tells us that sex was designed to be enjoyed fully in a committed marriage relationship. In God’s plan, the physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual all come together. It is a mingling of souls that puts the sexual relationship in a Christian marriage light years ahead of sex in any other context. It is hard to describe, but the couples who have experienced it know what I mean. With all that said, sex in a Christian marriage is not the ultimate; rather it is one piece in the puzzle of an Awesome Marriage.
Culture takes the same bodies and elevates them, and the pleasure we receive in sex, above everything else. “Sex is the ultimate” is a lie, but one we can all be vulnerable to believing. Unless you live in bunker by yourself, sex is around us every day, everywhere we go. Sex sells, and it sells itself to the point that people believe sex is the answer. The problem is that it is not. It is a short term fix to a long term problem. Sex by itself is a band aid to the emptiness we feel inside. Sex by itself takes out one of the core essentials in great sex: relationship. Without the relationship, sex is just two bodies coming together for a time, then moving on. It will never give long term fulfillment. It will never be the ultimate. The ultimate fulfillment comes in a committed marriage when sex is a part (a very important part) of the whole.