This month of April, we will feature some of the chapters from Dr. Kim's book "7 Secrets to an Awesome Marriage." You may order your copy of the book here.
After Nancy and I were married, we had about a year of things being pretty good, and then the problems began. We had no clue how to do marriage. If we had done the things that I am suggesting you do in my book, would things have been different? Probably. We would have been more aware of areas we needed to work on and we might have dated longer before jumping into marriage.
But with all we did wrong, I believe we would have still married. Why? Two reasons: First of all, we both firmly believe that our marriage was God’s plan. And second, during those two years of dating, Nancy and I became best friends. When things got rocky in our marriage, that foundation helped us immensely. The bottom line for each of us was that we did not want to lose our best friend.
When you meet that person whom you want to spend the rest of your life with, become best friends. Your first choice of someone to spend time with should be him or her. You should be able to share all your feelings, questions, doubts and fears with that person and know they fully accept you. Best friends are priceless, and your best friend in this world needs to be your spouse.
Friendship is a solid foundation that holds a marriage together.