"Letters From Your Future Spouse (Part 5)" A New Series by David Skidmore

Letters From Your Future Spouse (Part 5) One of the greatest qualities a person can have is a humble spirit. When you are humble, you realize the world does not revolve around you. When you are humble, you will be teachable and ready to serve. I want to be teachable, always learning and becoming better than I was yesterday. I want to serve, because Jesus says serving is the path to greatness.

This is a gift I can give my future wife. Instead of becoming “puffed up on my own knowledge”, I want to help “build her up through love.” One way to love her is to purposefully learn from her. Another way is to serve her. When you invite other people to teach you, you give them dignity and honor. When you serve others, you show them that you think they are worth serving. It takes strength, courage, and love to be a teachable servant. I wrote this “letter from my future spouse” as an encouragement to me to be humble so that I can serve her and be teachable.

 Dear Love,

 I noticed something about you early on when we were dating. One of the elders in our church was talking to you. After he finished, you wrote down what He said in your journal. I love your teachable spirit. It reveals your humility. And then, there was the time when one of the little kids at church talked about how big God is. And you wrote that down too later on. It was like you were letting that little boy teach you. And that’s one of the things that I love about you. For some reason, you decided to be teachable. You made a choice to learn from everyone and everything. You didn’t have to be the man with the answers, and you don’t feel the need to prove yourself. Instead, you’re constantly learning. 

 And then, you don’t just learn, but you live it. You aren’t too busy for anyone. Your heart is wide open, and you are ready to serve whoever you run into. Thank you for serving the homeless man, and the president of the bank in the same way. You don’t treat them any differently. I’m so honored to spend my life with a person who doesn’t just learn, but lives out what Jesus tells us to do. Thank you for setting the tone of humility, teachability, and service for our family. You inspire me to follow Jesus.

 With all my heart.

This weekend, would you take the time to write yourself a letter from your future spouse about you choosing the path of humility, teachability, and service from this day forward? After you write the letter, who will you begin to learn from today? Is your heart hard towards someone? What if you serve them today? If we want to create a great life in our future, we must take the small steps towards that great life now.

I hope this series on “Letters From Your Future Spouse” encourages you to prepare for your future marriage. I also hope this helps you live a great life now, lifting up Jesus in all you do.

David Skidmore

"Letters From Your Future Spouse (Part 4)" - A New Series by David Skidmore

One thing I have noticed is that I try to follow God on my own power. This is something that I want to be different in my life. I want to live in the Holy Spirit’s power. When talking about the Holy Spirit’s power, we’re not talking about a moment of excitement and passion for God. I am talking about the Holy Spirit’s power working in me, changing me over a long period of time so that the fruit of the Holy Spirit is in my life. Galatians 5:22-23 says the fruit of the Spirit is, “Love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, and self-control.” When I encounter people who are filled with the fruit of the Spirit, I love to be around them. Don’t you? I believe a life that does not quench the Spirit, but instead invites the Spirit to take control will be a blessing to my future spouse. I wrote this letter to myself as if I was my future spouse. This letter is about making choices now to encourage me to invite the Holy Spirit’s work into my life.

Dear Love,

 Today, I was thinking about the way the Holy Spirit is evident in your life. I wanted to thank you for working so hard to rest in the Spirit’s work in you. It is really difficult today to attune our minds to the work of the Spirit. The world is so busy and noisy. There is a temptation to believe we can follow Jesus out of our own strength, but you choose to walk in the Spirit’s power. Thank you for admitting those words to God, “I can’t, but you can.” I know those words were tough to get out, but it shows the heart you have for surrendering all you are to our Lord.  

 You have created space in your schedule to ask God for more of the Holy Spirit’s work in your life. You fasted to know the Spirit’s power even more. You sat in silence so you could hear the voice of God. You read your Bible so that the Sword of the Spirit can judge your heart, and you come before the Lord in honesty and submission. 

 Now, the Spirit is evident in your life. You are growing in kindness. You are so patient with me. When you’re around I feel more peaceful. I think other people feel the same. You are gentle, faithful, and you live a self-controlled life. This makes our home a place of faith, hope, and love. It is easy to walk with someone who rests in the work of God like you do. 

 With all my heart.

This weekend, would you take the time to write yourself a letter from your future spouse about you living a Spirit filled life from this day forward? If you are a Christ-follower, you have the Holy Spirit. Since you do have the Holy Spirit, don’t you want the power of the Holy Spirit to be in you? Don’t you want the fruit of the Holy Spirit to be present in your life? As we submit to the Holy Spirit, we will be changed by the Holy Spirit to be like Jesus.

 David Skidmore

 

 

 

"Letters From Your Future Spouse (Part 3)" - A new series by Awesome Marriage Leader David Skidmore

I am single, and I can say I am happily single. I’ve lived some excellent adventures with the Lord over the past few years. Like you though, I also have desires. One of my desires for my life is to have an awesome marriage someday. As I thought about being married, I wondered if my “future wife” was given the chance to write me letters in the future, what would she like to be able to say knowing how I lived my life from this day forward. Then, I wondered what I would like for her to be able to say. So this is a letter I wrote to myself. I wrote it as if I was my future spouse. And I wrote this to encourage myself to live the life that I really want to live.

 Dear Love, 

 I was thinking about you today. I couldn’t help but think of how much I see Jesus in you. The way you have surrendered your life to Him makes it so easy to see His light shining through you. I wanted to say thank you for choosing to be pure. That isn’t easy to do.  I wanted to remind you that Christ has redeemed you from everything in your past. When I think of your choice to be holy, I know you sometimes beat yourself up for what you once did, talked about, or thought about. But thank you for showing me how precious the blood of Jesus is to you. 

 I know it’s common today to define purity by virginity, but you didn’t approach purity from  the mindset of, “How close to the fire can we get without getting burned?” It was important for you to have boundaries. Thank you for protecting our purity. Thank you for honoring our Lord. Thank you for teaching me what surrender means. Thank you for valuing what we have. And thank you most of all for accepting Christ’s purity as your purity instead of trying to make it on your own. You are worthy of respect, honor, and love.

 With all my heart.

This weekend, would you take the time to write yourself a letter from your future spouse about you choosing to be pure and holy from this day forward? This will serve as a reminder of the life you want to create in the future? You can frame this letter and put it up in your room, or you could share it with your friends and ask them to encourage you in living the life you want to live.

David Skidmore

 

 

 

"Letters From Your Future Spouse (Part 2)" - a new series by Awesoms Marriage leader David Skidmore

A few months ago, one of my mentors said, “Where do you want to be in five years?” Amidst other thoughts, I mentioned, “I would like to be married.” Then, I thought, “What am I doing now to prepare myself to be married?” Now, I don’t believe I’ve met her yet. But I had this thought. If my future wife could see my life at the present time, what would she want me to develop in preparation for our marriage. And if she could see the choices I’m making now, what would she say in the future in response to the choices I’m making now. I wrote this “letter from my future spouse” as an inspiration to the kind of life I want to be able to share with her.

 Dear Love, 

 Thank you. I can’t say thank you enough because I feel blessed by your choices. I know it wasn’t easy for you to trust God when your life seemed to be falling apart a few years ago. I’m not sure if it is easy for anyone to trust God. Intellectually, it makes sense, but even God knows it is hard for us to trust in Him. And that’s what makes this so special. You chose to trust in the Lord with all your heart, instead of leaning on your own understanding. You chose to acknowledge Him in all your ways, and now look, He has made your path straight. In that, He has made our path straight. 

 Sometimes your friends made jokes about you, and sometimes they even mocked you. It seemed like most people didn’t understand you, but you kept trusting. You kept believing God. You kept hoping in the Lord. You kept waiting on Him. I’m thankful to be with you, because you help me trust our Lord now. You have no idea how much this means to me, so I’ll just finish with a quiet thank you and my deepest love.

 With all my heart.

 

This weekend, would you take the time to write yourself a letter from your future spouse about the way you chose to trust the Lord from this day forward? You may feel a bit strange doing this, writing to a person you may not have met yet. This will serve as an inspiration to yourself to live the kind of life now you want to share with your spouse then.

David Skidmore

 

"Letters From Your Future Spouse" (Part 1) - A new series by Awesome Marriage Leader David Skidmore

I am single, and I can say I am happily single. I’ve lived some excellent adventures with the Lord over the past few years. Like you though, I also have desires. One of my desires for my life is to have an awesome marriage someday. As I thought about being married, I wondered if my “future wife” was given the chance to write me letters in the future, what would she like to be able to say knowing how I lived my life from this day forward. Then, I wondered what I would like for her to be able to say. So this is a letter I wrote to myself. I wrote it as if I was my future spouse. And I wrote this to encourage myself to live the life that I really want to live.

 Dear Love, 

 I wanted to say thank you for the way you prioritize your relationships. In our relationship, I’ve never felt like there was a competition. I’ve always known you love the Lord more than me, and I’m so grateful you do. You love the Lord with everything you have. Your heart beats for our Lord, your mind is fixed on Him, and your strength is found in Him. Because you love Jesus first, I feel secure that you will continue to love me from His standards of love.

 I also love that you accept my love. I know the only way you can is because you accept God’s love for you. You accepted His love, and now you even love yourself. Thank you for choosing to love yourself, and to love others as you love yourself. Because you do love yourself, I know you will love me from a place of strength, peace, and joy. You found your Lord, and you found who you are in Him. Thank you for loving me out of who you are in Jesus. 

 With all my heart.

 This weekend, would you take the time to write yourself a letter from your future spouse about your love for the Lord, for yourself, and for others from this day forward? This will serve as a reminder of the life you want to create in the future? You can frame this letter and put it up in your room, or you could share it with your friends and ask them to encourage you in living the life you want to live.

David Skidmore