From This Day Forward Session 3 - "Have Fun"

In this session, Pastor Craig reveals the three types of fun that every married couple must enjoy. Dr. Kim discuses ways to keep romance in your marriage. Download your "Participant Guide": http://resources.lifechurch.tv/wp-content/uploads/2013/01/FTDF_ParticipantGuide.pdf [youtube http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fDHnTeEDzWM]

From This Day Forward: Session 2 "Fight Fair"

In this session, Pastor Craig gives God's rules for fighting fair. Then Dr. Kim discusses two keys in fighting fair and ways to create an atmosphere of trust. He also gives us two practical tools to help us resolve conflict.

From This Day Forward: Session 1 "Seek God"

In this session Pastor Craig stresses the importance of God being your One and your Spouse being your Two.  Dr. Kim talks with Michael and Shelby about practical ways for a couple to seek God togerther.

From This Day Forward Session 5: "Never Give Up"

Pastor Craig talks about the harvest that comes in a marriage when you never give up.  Dr. Kim gives practical advice on steps to building and keeping a strong foundation in your marriage.

From This Day Forward: Session 2 "Fight Fair"

In this session, Pastor Craig gives God's rules for fighting fair. Then Dr. Kim discusses two keys in fighting fair and ways to create an atmosphere of trust. He also gives us two practical tools to help us resolve conflict.[youtube http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=y02AIJsW6og]

From This Day Forward: Session 1 Seek God

In this session Pastor Craig stresses the importance of God being your One and your Spouse being your Two. Dr. Kim talks with Michael and Shelby about practical ways for a couple to seek God togerther. [youtube http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pVI82Ynze6Q]

"From This Day Forward: Stay Pure"

It is exciting for us at Awesome Marriage to join with LifeChurch.tv and Pastor Craig Groeschel this month as they focus on marriage with the series “From This Day Forward.”  Each Tuesday in August,  Dr. Kim will lead us through each of the five topics in this series.  Watch Pastor Craig's message: http://live.lifechurch.tv

If you have been following me very long, you know this is a subject I am passionate about.  Staying pure before marriage and staying faithful in marriage is essential for you and your marriage.

First, let’s look at singles.  We live in a world that says sex before marriage is okay.  Actually, in many places it is a normal part of the dating relationship.  Everybody is doing it.  The problem comes with the fact that we are not just bodies.  We have souls.  We have feelings and emotions and sex is very much connected to these.  You leave a piece of your soul with everyone you sleep with and it takes a toll.  You may not feel it today but I promise you that one day you will.  Staying pure is not old fashioned.  God is not old fashioned.  Sex was His idea in the first place.  It is an incredible gift that He has given us to enjoy.  He simply says sex outside of marriage is wrong.  Not because He is trying to deprive us of enjoyment.  It is because He created us and He knows what works for us and what does not.  You may have blown it already but you can choose purity from this day forward.  God can redefine you sexually.  You can embrace His best for you.

If you are married, you made a covenant before God to remain faithful to your spouse.  Period.  The end.  Do not go there - ever.  The number of men and women having affairs today is overwhelming.  It is shattering marriages and families.  I see it every day in the counseling room.  I see almost as many women that have had affairs as I do men.    It is almost at an epidemic level.  So what can you do?  Never take step one.  I never have talked to someone that said they walked out the door one morning and said, “I think I will go have an affair today.”  That does not happen.  What does happen is that people flirt and have lunch or dinner with a co-worker of the opposite sex and confide personal things to someone of the opposite sex and the list of dangerous first steps goes on and on.

The bottom line is this: the best sex ever is in the context of a Christian marriage.  It is a blending of body and soul and I beg you to never settle for less.

Dr. Kim

Dr. Kim discusses the sexual relationship as well as other areas of marriage in these tow books.

“Preparing for an Awesome Marriage”

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“Living an Awesome Marriage.”

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"From This Day Forward: Have Fun"

It is exciting for us at Awesome Marriage to join with LifeChurch.tv and Pastor Craig Groeschel this month as they focus on marriage with the series “From This Day Forward.”  Each Tuesday in August,  Dr. Kim will lead us through one of the five topics in this series.  Watch Pastor Craig's message this week: http://live.lifechurch.tv

When I teach premarital classes, I ask couples what they do for fun.  I get all kinds of answers.  These couples have fun together.  They do different things.  Having fun is an important part of their life together.  When I ask that same question of couples that have been married a few years, I often get blank stares.  They may look at each other and never come up with an answer.  What happens?  The answer is simple.  Life gets in the way.  Jobs, kids, and activities can so clutter our schedules that we do not take time to have fun together.

Nancy and I did a pretty good job of having fun together before we had kids.  Then we became more kid focused.  We had fun but did not set aside time to have fun together - just the two of us.  Finally we planned a beach trip.  No friends.  No kids. Just us.  It was amazing.  We rediscovered each other.  We laughed, played, and reconnected in a way we forgot was possible.  On the plane ride home, we made a commitment to often purposefully carve out time for just the two of us to have fun together.  It made a difference for us. A huge difference.

Take a time-out and talk to your spouse about having fun together.  Make a commitment to have fun together.  Here are a few things to talk about:

  • Have a weekly date.  Set aside time each week for just the two of you.  You do not have to spend a lot of money.  You can do fast food and a dollar movie.  We used to love sitting by a local lake and watching the sailboats and sunset.  Be creative and hold that weekly date time sacred.
  • Plan a getaway for just the two of you at least once a year and more often if possible.  You can go to a Bed and Breakfast, stay at a local hotel, or do a more elaborate trip.
  • Try new restaurants together.
  • Try a new activity.  Walk, run, kayak, bike, bowl - you get the idea.

The important thing is not so much what you do, it is taking the time to do it together.

Share some of your ideas with us.

Dr. Kim’s book “Secrets of an Awesome Marriage”  has short one to two page chapters that put a positive focus on marriage.  Click on the link to get your copy today:

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